You know that feeling. Your heart thumps more rapidly as you quicken your pace. You feel that it is getting difficult to swallow past the lump of fear growing in your throat. You wonder how it is going to end and what you can possibly do to MAKE it end or at least be less afraid.
This happened yesterday afternoon as I walked by myself to an improv show. A guy comes out from under the bus stop shelter to comment on my boots, jeans and ass. He decides to follow me, walking directly behind me, making sexual comments about what he would like to do to me. Eventually his comments turned from that to what a bitch I was for ignoring him. He told me he would “beat the sexy right out of me.” I was 3 block’s from my destination, an eternity away, with him following behind me the entire time. Fortunately the street was busy with other pedestrians and eventually I was able to duck inside the venue where the improv show was. I got away from him. Had I not been able to, how long would it have continued? How would it have ended? From my experience, choosing to engage in any way makes the situation worse. If you choose not to engage, you are berated for not accepting the “compliment” and things also get worse.
Get a grip
gentleman animals. My body does not exists for you. If you think it does, try making these comments as I walk with a man through my neighborhood streets.
ETA: I recently had a friend encourage me to make a grotesque face/sound in the direction of the perpetrator to stop this behavior, b/c what guy would be interested in a woman that did something like that? As if I had done something in the first place to ASK for this attention and I needed to do something to STOP this attention. My friends comment also showed me what a disconnect there was between what this feels like when it happens to you as a woman and what (this) man thinks it feels like.
In the meantime, ladies, tell me how you handle this sort of behavior b/c I know it happens to all of us.